Showing You Care

Sometimes it can be very difficult to show someone that you love them. Especially when you start to take into consideration all the different love languages that people may have. Not to mention how difficult it can be if you are long-distance or if you just do not have as much time to spend together as you may like because of differing schedules. That is why it is important to listen to one another and it is important to stay communicative about what is going on in your life.

There may be folks out there who say that it is toxic to be up in your partner's business, but to be frank, if you do not feel comfortable telling your partner everything you are doing, why are you with them? It is a completely different matter if your partner does not trust you and questions the things you tell them, then sure, you could discuss it being a toxic relationship. But just telling them that hey you're going to be going out with friends one day or maybe you are spending a day with your family, that is just good communication and it is key to a healthy relationship. 

I think that is where a lot of modern relationships seem to fail, they lack communication. In my own opinion, you should be able to be friends with your significant other before you even consider if you can or should date them. If all you are looking for out of a relationship is somebody for physical attraction and having fun, is that really a relationship? Although if that is what you both want then kudos to you I suppose, but wouldn't that involve talking to each other about it to begin with? Which brings us full circle back to good communication makes for a good relationship.

In line with good communication, you need to know your partner and understand their needs. What you may think is affection, they may take as aggression. You may think that you are showing your love by getting them gifts, they may feel as though they are using you. You may want to be hanging on them and hugging or kissing them all the time, they may find displays of personal affection cliche and childish or rude. 

You need to be able to talk about these things and truly appreciate each other for every bit of one another. This is something I personally need to do better with, understanding my partner and their needs so that I can properly show them that I love them and want to spend time with them. 

The same could be said about friendships too.